Masturbation Survey: Part Two

In case you’re not arriving here from part one of the masturbation findings presentation—in which case, where are you even coming from?—this is the spill over from a solo pleasure survey I conducted. 60 people shared details on exactly how they touch themselves. Read part one here, part two is below.

Didn’t fit on the chart: Sauna, Float tank, closet, yoga mat, sink/over the sink AND anywhere & everywhere <3

Let’s get right to it—here’s some highlights on what respondents do to prepare (or not) to masturbate:

Ive started being more deliberate with this. Laying out a towel and massage oils to focus on prolonging the pleasure over racing to a climax.

Reading erotica, watching porn, lube.

Intention setting, texting, porn I’ve moved away from a little but mostly imagination.

Often it will be when I’m writing erotica or reading it. Lube is essential and my glass dildos. A quick sext especially if I’m travelling.

Porn. At the end of my porn addiction I tried audio but it was a slippery slope (ha) and my slippery fingers I would eventually find their way to something that would leave me feeling spiritually bankrupt.

I run a really hot shower and wait for it to get steamy.

I like to get into cotton underwear to catch the drip and cover me when my hands start going across myself. I love masturbating but hate feeling really sloppy on my fingers. I don’t need porn although sometimes when I’m making up scenarios in my head I’ll need to add some backstory to the characters to get me engaged. It’s not just reverse cowgirl. It’s their first time together after months of flirting back and forth at poetry open mics that they haven’t been sure the other person was flirting at. Tonight the after drinks at the pub went a little bit longer and they got a little bit drunker and just that little bit flirtier too. Now they’re having some of the most amazing sex of their lives.

If I either read or pay attention to myself in other capacities, put something on, take something off, light candles or incense or both and lay out toys I may use or want to that’s fun. I think about sensations and experiences but in a solo capacity. Clean sheets are fun. Read my tarot or oracle cards. Write or read smut/ erotica. Lube is always fun. Being tactile with myself. The sensations of materials are important from clothes to bedding or hard surfaces etc. I like sensation play so cold and heat is important to me too.

Just setting out a triple layer of tissue as I let out a decent load (nothing to write home about but nothing to complain about either).

I would usually start on my own and then either end up going to my hidden folder for a video of me and my ex or look for a porn or my imagination. If porn or my imagination, I have to imagine a woman touching me or eating me out to get turned on. (I’m straight and never been with a woman) but for some reason watching a man fuck a woman really hard doesn’t turn me on. So lesbian porns usually have more touchy sensory activation stuff lol

I don’t think I “prepare”, really I just “answer a call”. It’s my dick telling me that he wants that and I obey. It’s pretty animalistic.

What inspires our group to masturbate? Other than being turned on, the most recurring reason had to do with stress relief/decompression/insomnia. The rest were gloriously individual. You all are such horny babes :)

Beautiful people and their godly bodies

Flirty conversations. My own thoughts.

Almost always first thing in the morning and right before bed. Also whenever I’m unexpectedly turned on from something I’ve seen (usually from browsing social media). I’m a fan of writing erotica based on fantasies I have, and will often get turned on while writing them/take a break from writing to masturbate to the thoughts and scenarios I’ve been writing about.

Boredom, level of horniness, listening to my boyfriend’s sexy voice, relaxation.

breathing. I mean, being alive

I am quite literally horny all the time, so all it takes to inspire me is how much I want to touch myself at any given moment.

For some reason, an edible or a joint usually gets me in the mood in the mood

Smut. My partner. Someone’s expressive hands. A memory of great sex

Additional items not charted but mentioned: pillows, other furniture, objects as dildos that are not actually dildos & jet showers

More specifics on *what* people use to masturbate—people largely leaned toward using sex tech toys. Honorable mention to the teddy bear, pillows, and the old hair curler for pre-tech fun.

Porn is sometimes a way to initiate the process, but I can’t say that I really watch it, I kinda listen to it and then get lost in my own thoughts and imagination. I use my hands, but sometimes implement with some cock rings. And I don’t use lotions or lubes, I just spit.

As I wrote, sexting is important, I am a nice balance of an exhibitionist and a voyeur, so I like to show and watch. Sometimes, when I am about to come, I would leave the voice note recording on and just record my moans. It’s something a bit unusual to share but I both me and some of my partners like it.

Porn, imagination, pictures and videos of a guy who is 10 years my junior sends me. I use my hands, vibrator, dildo and clitoral suction.

I use a vibrator about 99% of the time, sometimes (more rarely) a dildo in addition to the vibrator (though it’s a tiring duo for the wrists). Occasionally I look at pictures of my boyfriend or I’ll watch porn if I’m struggling to form a fantasy that I can follow properly or one that isn’t working like I hoped. If I can keep a steady hold on the right spot with my vibrator, I’ll use my other hand to caress, stroke or grab my breasts. Or I’ll grab my neck

Porn, imagination, hands, vibrator, dildo, anal plug, a pillow for riding.

Mostly porn, sometimes my imagination. I mostly use my hands since at the moment I live with other people that like to snoop. Every couple of years I have a chance to get a toy that I can use for a couple days and I get it to practice holding back completion for as long as possible. I train myself for whoever I am with or future partner if I am single at the time. I currently have a stroker but the one I really liked to train with was one that twisted, sucked, and went up and down much faster than I can with my hands. The longest I could get with all 3 settings was around 35 minutes and it left me in a full body sweat. I was fighting for my life to hold back that cum. The longest I have gone is with my hands and multiple porn videos to achieve 1 hour and 45 minutes.

Mostly I lie down and touch my nipples until I’m hard imagining I’m being aroused or being desired.then softly stroke my cock once it’s hard. My hands. Left hand. Sometimes I watch Japanese porn. Something about it really turns me on. It’s a quick hit tho. My imagination is wild though and gives me the greatest pleasure. Deep and slow.

Watch porn, read smut, or my imagination. Mostly love using toys though I also enjoy feeling myself (I enjoy the experience for my hand more than my vulva enjoys my hand if that makes sense- like it’s fine for my vulva, but not as appealing as the womanizer toy).

I primarily use the womanizer and the njoy metal curved wand together. Sometimes use it for anal, sometimes use a dildo vaginally

Unsurprisingly, most of us are fantasizing while we touch ourselves

Sweet, sweet fantasies, baby—noteworthy specific thoughts while masturbating:

Fantasies. Gangbangs, watching men jerk, flashing/exhibitionism, and cnc are some of my biggest turn ons.

A fantasy - I like rough play, throat holds, gentle choking, hair pulling, hands over mouth, blindfolds and being tied up. With a very dominant man.

A kaleidescope of memory. I like to shift the point of view too. Sometimes I’m being fucked, other times I like to imagine what my partner must see, or I step into that role with another fantasy. Usually a power dynamic. Often group sex. Always messy.

I believe this question changes often but currently my lover absolutely destroying every hole.

I fantasize about my boyfriend. Often fantasies of consensual-non-consent; it’s something that I find really enticing and I love the idea of him using me as if I didn’t give consent when really I did and I’m in a safe loving, sexy space ❤️‍🔥 He is the only person I want to fantasize about or plan to, but sometimes my fantasies don’t work well enough to get me off and I turn to porn as visual and audible assistance because the sounds and videos can really help.

I’ve recently been fantasizing about having a penis during masturbation. I imaging that my vibrator is my long, hard cock, and I rub it while it’s on my clit. I picture myself approaching orgasm, about to spill my seed all over the place. If I truly had a penis, I would be such a menace with it. I’d never put it down.

Fisting, spanking, choking, general moments of past in which I’ve had insane multiple orgasms. Hot wax, frozen toys, eating cake, being worshiped, servicing someone and potentially worshiping them. I usually focus on the pleasure of partner(s) in non solo or mutual masturbation sessions though I do think of what I would like or have felt before.

I think about being a woman, posing in nude pictures, being desired, being fucked or spanked by men (often in front of other men)

I would mostly think of a fantasy and create my own movie. Like been massaged and touched all over my body and accidentally in the areas where one doesn’t normally get massaged. A woman going down on me, or scissoring me turn me on really bad. The image of my ex fucking another woman in front of me while she eats me…

Lack of arousal and toy related issues didn’t fit on the chart. Respondents often listed multiple reasons.

And! Last but not least, I asked respondents to share a confession about masturbation:

I like to masturbate with and for people I don’t know

I’m a little bit obsessed with watching myself. Mirrors. Films of myself I’ve made. I’ve found myself surprisingly aroused at my own acts of masturbation

Sometimes after masturbating to certain content I feel ashamed that I just did and was turned on by it.

I really only need one image, a short gif even works, but sometimes I’ll have dozens of tabs open and multiple videos going. The “closing 50 tabs of shame” post-nut clarity is real.

i think alot of people can relate but when quarantine shut the city down i was jerking off about 7 times a day.

Since becoming a mother it took me a long time (around 2 years) to masturbate again. It didn’t appeal to me for lots of various reason. Now 7 years on and finally feeling myself again and feeling like a sexual being I do it whenever I can.

I often like to masturbate more than I like to have sex.

I was deeply ashamed of it. I hated what I must look like when I cum. That’s changed from a ton of glorious feedback from partners and also watching myself in the mirror

I did used to feel ashamed of masturbating. I felt ashamed that I blossomed later and didn’t start until later than I suppose most people might have. I felt ashamed that I couldn’t cum without my vibrator and at times I still do. Embarrassed about it more like. Lately I feel more embarrassed that I don’t do it more

Sometimes I will masturbate over and over again until I’m exhausted - especially if I’m stressed or sexually frustrated. I am not able to see my long distance lover often and I’m so horny but so choosey about who I am involved with, so I have to self pleasure a lot. If I watch our video of me giving him an amazing blowjob with an amazing 80s soundtrack in the background I have to cum as I watch it.

There’s something about my own touch that brings me so much joy, that no one else will ever be able to replicate, and it turns me on to no end. I am sexy to me, and it makes me want to pleasure that person on the receiving end (myself) to the best of my abilities.

I thought I was achieving orgasm before I started using a vibrator, but I wasn’t even close. My friend bought me my first one, and I’ve never looked back.

Sometimes I masturbate and think about being watched by an attractive woman I know. Like she’s encouraging me to masturbate to the porn I’m watching at the same time

In my teens I masturbated about 10 times a day for 6 months and became de-sensitised and couldn’t orgasm for about a month. I had to re-teach myself to breathe and relax and enjoy it. I never used a vibrator until I was 25!

Masturbation can make me come multiple times but penetrative sex can not.

I very truly believed I belonged in the looney bin in my early childhood years because of masturbation. I’d lay awake at night and just sob thinking I was a freak. Never said that before.

I’ve masturbated to many women of authority/power in my life.

I was so accustomed to masturbating in secret and cumming without sound, that it took time to unlearn the silence and actually make noise during sex

Often times after a date with a man that had some subpar sex, I will come home and fuck myself silly and give myself the orgasm that I really wanted.