Who's Afraid of a Teeny Tiny Sex Toy?
The first sex toy I ever played with was a pair of vibrating panties (pleather G-string with a slot for the bullet vibe) gifted to me by my boyfriend in high school. He was older than me, beyond school already, and he’d sit in his car in the afternoons just outside campus, testing the lengths the vibrations could travel. It felt like using a sexual walkie talkie.
My second sex toy was a lipstick-shaped pink battery-operated vibrator acquired at a strip mall in Connecticut. It felt illicit to enter that store, and then bring myself to climax multiple times in the back of my college boyfriend’s mother’s SUV, pulled into a state park, all mountains and foliage around us.
That trusty thing lasted me so long, I wasn’t even aware of the leaps and bounds the industry had made since my purchase. So when I received a new model from the brand JimmyJane nearly 8 years later, my clit was positively tortured by the power and finesse of the sleek rabbit eared clit-hugger—tortured in a good way.
I’m partial to a strong buzz on my clit (or indirect buzzland on either side of the clit, which the bunny ears help create for softer times) along with penetration. The double sensation is honestly so overwhelmingly pleasurable it brings tears to my eyes. Sex with a vibrator is sex turned all the way up. It’s a constant state of bliss. It’s body writhing and brain numbing. It’s beautiful.
I’ve always been fond of sexual enhancements—my first orgasm was achieved pushed up against a powerful jet in a jacuzzi. And why not? Who’s afraid of a teeny tiny sex toy?
Apparently, some men are. But since maximizing a woman’s potential for pleasure should never be considered threatening, here’s a few ways to intro sex toys into your hook-ups, relationships, marriage.
Go to a cute sex shop together to pick something out. The experience will be fun and collaborative—you could even purchase multiple toys and test them out to find a favorite to play with solo vs together.
Intro your toy with a full on sexy night. Dress up, light candles, and bring in your third.
Use your toy solo and leave a voice memo to your lover of you cumming. Think of them while you masturbate and tell them about it. Ask if they want to meet your friend who keeps you company while they’re away.
Get a toy for THEM. Show them what a prostate massager can do for their pleasure. Use lots of lube and go slow. The ones that vibrate are amazing. Good vibrations all around.
Want more sex toy inspiration? Read The Rose Vibrator for a bold move we should all try.