8 Ways to Shake Up Your Sex Life and Solo Pleasure Routine
Sometimes we realize a little late when routine sneaks into our bedroom, but here’s the good news: there’s a whole world of pleasure, passion, and playfulness waiting on the other side if you’re willing to make the trek.
Sex is not just about following a standard process to reach climax. It is about getting what you want by expressing what you shamelessly want. Sex can be emotional, at the same time sex can also be just that––sex. Nothing else. Here’s an excerpt from Lunch Break where a woman learns to focus on pleasure and getting what she wants for it, no strings attached.
“He was very much the introduction I needed to know that (of many things) sex could also be about getting what you WANT, not just whatever mechanical checklist it took to reach climax. Sex with him made it very clear to me, it wasn’t only about what I needed to orgasm, but what deep down to my shameless, depraved core- I wanted. There’s a difference in the two and how it decorates the journey of pleasure—you make all kinds of detours when you voice what you want. I wanted so badly to see him again. To reach the heights of that rapture of pleasure. He would send prompts throughout the weeks, days and months apart to know what I wanted and to put words to what he wanted.”
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Whether you’re looking to spice things up with a partner or embark on a solo journey, these eight tips by our AURORE community are here to turn up the heat, inspire a sense of adventure, and keep you coming back for more. So,
“Read Porn.”
We’ve got you covered! Get cozy with some juicy, well-written erotica and let the stories inspire some fantasies. Whether you’re into the forbidden fruit, into a slow build, or maybe even looking for some guided pleasure, a great erotic read can spark ideas, get you in the mood, and turn a mundane evening into something unforgettable.
“Make relaxing into it a priority. Most routine orgasms are stress orgasms.”
Let’s face it: most of us treat orgasms like a finish line after a marathon of stress. Slow down, savor the moment, and give yourself the luxury of total relaxation. Try a bath, a glass of wine, or maybe a massage to unwind. When you’re fully relaxed, every sensation heightens, and those orgasms? Let’s just say they last a lot longer than a quick sprint.
“Try different toys, film yourself, sell the videos 🤑”
Looking to shake up your playtime? There’s a toy for every fantasy. Try something new and see what sends shivers down your spine. And if you’re feeling daring, turn the camera on yourself. Playfully recording your escapades can add an edge of excitement – and for those feeling bold, maybe even turn a profit. Just remember: confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear.
“Have dates where sex is off the table. Instead make out, touch, explore.”
Want to build tension and bring back that thrill? Set up a date with just one rule: no sex. Instead, focus on the slow, intimate moments you’d typically speed past. A lingering make-out session, exploring each other’s touch, a tender massage – all without the usual finale. It’s like rewinding to those thrilling first dates, with all the heart-pounding anticipation of the “maybe more” still waiting ahead.
“Take turns writing erotica about your fantasies and how you want to be touched.”
Here’s a spicy little exercise: write a short story featuring exactly how you’d love to be touched. Then, share it. Giving voice to your fantasies not only stokes the fire but also lets your partner in on your deepest desires. Bonus points if they read it back to you – extra bonus points if they turn those words into reality!
“Blindfolds! Creates a new dynamic between partners.”
Taking away sight heightens every other sense and lets you focus on pure sensation. Imagine feeling your partner’s touch with no clue where it’s going next – it’s thrilling, intimate, and just a little bit dangerous in the best way. Even in solo play, a blindfold can make every touch, taste, and sound a whole new experience.
“It might seem silly at first but role play gets you out of your comfort zone.”
Letting go of inhibitions is easier when you’re pretending to be someone else. Think of it as an invitation to step outside your usual self and see what new sparks fly. Silly? Maybe. Sexy? Definitely. Sometimes, acting a little out of character is the best way to get closer than ever.
“Experiment with restraints (after educating yourselves!) and see what sticks.”
Adding restraints to your repertoire can bring a thrilling sense of vulnerability and trust. The catch? You need to know what you’re doing! Educate yourselves, set clear boundaries, and then let go (in the safest way possible, of course). Whether it’s soft cuffs, silk ties, or just a little hand-holding, gentle restraint can add a whole new layer to your connection.
There’s no right or wrong way to explore intimacy, but there *is* a world of possibilities when you let yourself get playful. So, here’s to setting the rule book aside, trying new things, and letting your fantasies guide you to new heights. You don’t have to search the web too much. We’ve got your fantasies and more covered through our 200+ erotic stories. Get a taste by reading story previews, or dive in and become a member to get new stories weekly and access to our full archives.