7 reasons why people love bondage
Kinks are all about exploring what turns us on outside the usual script and learning about oneself in the process. Kinky play adds excitement, curiosity, and a sense of play into our intimate lives. Bondage is one such kink that can activate the senses and test our boundaries.
Read this excerpt from Morning Glory, a spicy story on AURORE:
The thick brown ropes are already out and waiting under the bed frame and she doesn’t hesitate to push me down onto the mattress, tying my wrists together and then securing them firmly to the bed frame. The same goes for my right ankle after removing my boxers. I can see her confidence stutter as her eyes crawl over my body, resting on my erection, like her eyes are eating me as her tongue wants to taste me. She lights a cigarette to refocus herself and drops the shorts and shirt to the floor before sitting neatly over me. She is driving my body and mind into oblivion. My hands are tied and the pressure builds, the trapped blood restricted in my efforts to touch her, have more of her, the urgency of the moment making me forget the more useful parts of my body.
We asked our AURORE community why they love bondage—from feeling in control to letting go of it completely and trusting your partner, bondage can be healing and powerful to explore in the bedroom and beyond.
The appeal of bondage——
“Making total peace with my body, how it looks, and only thinking about sensations”
When you’re tied up or letting go, all those little insecurities fade—there’s no room to worry about how you look; it’s all about how you feel. Every touch, every sensation takes over, bringing you right back to the pleasure that’s yours to enjoy. It’s a one-way ticket out of your head and into your body.
“Giving complete control to the other person”
“Giving up control yet still trusting someone completely”
Giving up control and trusting someone to take care of you is the ultimate paradox—and the ultimate thrill. It’s vulnerability wrapped in strength, like whispering, ‘I’m yours,’ and knowing you’re still safe. That level of trust brings you closer than any words could.
“Letting go of control in submission holds in it an essential philosophy of life”
Handing over control isn’t just a power move—it’s pure liberation. Letting someone else lead opens up a whole new world of surprises, anticipation, and trust.
“Surrender.”
Surrendering is more than just an act in the moment; it’s an art. It’s letting your partner lead you somewhere only they can take you, not knowing where but loving every second of it. It’s freedom with a hint of danger, an invitation to stop holding back and just let go.
“To feel like your partner desires your body so much they want to explore without you interfering”
There’s something incredibly hot about just lying back and letting someone else take over, to feel them so enraptured by you that they can’t wait to explore every inch. No moves, no talking—just raw, unfiltered and uninterrupted desire.
“It's a complete mind & body experience. I can tune in to my pleasure & go wild. I feel alive.”
When you’re truly in the moment, every nerve ending is awake, every thought is tuned to sensation, and it feels like pure electricity. There’s no overthinking, just a wild, unleashed part of you that’s all about the thrill of the moment.
“Having full control of their pleasure but mostly the fact that they feel safe with me”
There’s a special power in having control, not just to please, but to create a cocoon of safety for your partner. When they trust you enough to surrender, you’re not just the one in charge—you’re the one holding their whole experience, and that’s a high like no other.
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